Checking Expectations

Sometimes people disappoint us. They fall short of our expectations.  In these moments I am learning to examine my expectations first instead of looking to blame someone for falling short. Regularly checking my expectations has been teaching me so much. Ultimately, I want to love people better, I want to succeed at my job, and make […]

Mourning Our Daily Losses

I’ve recently been faced with mourning the loss of my father, again. I didn’t grow up with my father. I lived with him briefly the summer before starting High School. We were not close when he died over 10 years ago. I didn’t want to go to the funeral and I remember being so angry […]

Failing to Disappoint

When someone thinks they will constantly disappoint you, they will eventually withdraw. As I write this statement heat rises to my face and chest. I know I have made others feel this way in the past. When this realization truly sunk in for me it was a major catalyst for personal change. However there is […]

Come As You Are

God’s grace doesn’t always look the way I want it to. Sometimes I want grace to come in the form of human comfort and compassion when I have fallen short of others expectations. I want grace to be about absolving me from my pain and sometimes even from the responsibility to love better. I desire […]

Making a Graceful Transition

“Grace does not tire in giving others courage to continue” – Wisdom Hunters Every year I have a theme or word to give me a deliberate focus and purpose in my walk with God. In 2016 my word was Joy. Joy was the new black. The year was filled with much joy, mourning and letting […]

Leaning Into Grace

“Grace demands nothing of us in payment, but everything of us in trust.” – Unknown Understanding grace has been a lifelong struggle for me. As I have leaned into both joy and sorrow this year the very real concept of grace has come up a lot. As I began to talk about it I started […]